“After the author (may Allah have mercy on him) mentioned the verses -indicating the prohibition of hating/disliking each other, and abandoning each other, and turning away from one another- he then mentioned the ahadeeth; amongst them is the hadeeth of Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (sallahAllaahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Do not hate each other, and do not buy over one another, and do not turn away from one another, and do not abandon each other.”
These four things the Prophet (sallahAllaahu alayhi wasallam) prohibited them, the first: Hating/Disliking one another.
Even if it comes in your heart the dislike of someone, try to remove this from you heart, and look at his good traits: until you can wipe away his bad traits. And the Prophet (sallahAllaahu alayhi wasallam) has guided us to this, when he said: “The male believer does not hate the female believer, if he dislikes an attribute of hers, he will be pleased with another.”
“The male believer does not hate the female believer, : meaning his wife or his sister or his mom, but what is meant here is the wife.
“The male believer does not hate the female believer, if he dislikes an attribute of hers, he will be pleased with another.” This is the weighing and balancing between the good and the bad. Some people -may Allaah protect us- [just] look at the bad and they judge by them, and they forget the good traits. And some just look at the good and forget the bad. Being fair and just is that a person should compare these, and that he should side and turn to pardoning, forgiving, and letting it go. Surely Allaah loves those who pardon.
So when you find hate in your heart for someone, try to remove this dislike, and remind yourself of his good qualities. Maybe there was between you an interaction or relation which was not good: but he is someone who is virtous, good-natured, does good to the people, he loves good (& righteousness). So rememeber, [remind yourself of] these good traits: such that the bad dealing he had with you becomes lost and immersed when compared to the good traits of his.”
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen in his explanation of Riyadhu-s-Saliheen.
Ya Rabb strengthen us and correct our short-comings. Ameen.
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